Friday, August 15, 2008
I've ruined my child!
Kory has a little bit of a temper/emotional side. Often when he cries he's totally out of control, but doing it more for show than anything else. You can't talk with him because he's screaming so loud, so a few months ago I had this idea...rather than allow it to continue I would say, "I hate it when 'Grumpy Kory' is here. Okay, I'm going to close my eyes and count the three and when I open them I sure hope 'Happy Kory' is back." It works every time! It gives him an "out" or a reason to stop crying and then we can talk things over rationally. Lately however I've been a little worried because he blames things on "Grumpy Kory". For example, last night he never cleared his part of the table, so this morning his plate was still at the table. When he saw it he said, "Hey, who forgot to clear their plate?" When he realized it was his he then said, "Oh Grumpy Kory must have forgotten." Then I asked him if he could clear it for "grumpy Kory" and he did. Now I'm just a little worried I'm going to give my kid multiple personalities. Think I should be worried?
8 comments:
I would try to add a few more personalities to him.
For example:
Give mom a back rub Kory.
Get mommy a drink of water Kory.
Scrub the floor Kory.
Don't worry about it. Take advantage of it. :)
Love ya sis.
Na, don't worry about it. That's so cute that you can do that -- and it works! At least "happy Kory" is still willing to clear the plate that "grumpy Kory" left out. That was sure nice of him.
SOOO funny!!! I did the same thing with Kerry...It started with the dog. When Brandy did something, Kerry would tell me "Sandy did it." Then when Kerry would do something wrong, "Terry did it." This was when she was little. We still joke about it to this day!! They do know without a doubt -- it's just their way to downplay their behavior, not who they are. Kory is a smart little boy!! He definately knows the difference. He just needs to know "Grumpy Kory" will still be held responsible for his behavior even though "Happy Kory" is back!! :)
I'm with Ryan on this one. I think that is so funny and harmless. No worries!
Ok, Christian is way bad tempered so maybe that will work on him soon. If that kid will ever sit still long enough for me to attempt to talk to hm. :) I actually had to take him out of Target today while D stayed behind to pay. Haven't had to do that in a LONG time. :)
You didn't ruin your child.
Careless Kristin ruined your child.
well, if you're worried, why not just rephrase it. you could say, "Oh, I'm sad when Kory is grumpy. I'm going to close my eyes and hope that Kory DECIDES to be happy by the time I count to three..."
I talk to Raquel a lot about how the choices she makes result in certain consequences (because she has been having temper tantrams). So, I end up saying things like, "If you decide to cry, that fine. That's your choice. But then you won't be able to get dressed and we'll be late for reading time at the library and may miss it..." So, lately I've been hearing things like, "I'm going to read this book. That's MY CHOICE." I laugh (inside) when I hear that.
Anyway, I love your story! You are a great mom!
LOL! Ryan's comment is too funny!...and Erik too!
I say if it's working...keep it up because who knows how long it'll last!...Think of it as devloping his imagination and reasoning skills!
dont' feel too bad...Cory (my cory) was little everytime he did something bad and my mom would ask who did it he would say, "Umm..I think a ghost did it mom"....he grew out of it...so will Kory...and i agree with ryan and Lizeth...work the personalities if it helps!hahah!!
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